I am in dire need of your advice!!! I have a beautiful girlfriend at home, but our sex life is just non-existent, however that isn’t really the main issue, I love Cock! Although I do not perceive myself as being gay, there is nothing I like more than visiting massage parlours and the like and indulging in the ‘Glory Holes’, my ultimate fantasy would be an all male gang bang. How do I come to terms with what I am doing and at the same time get a good sex life back with my partner, most worryingly is the fact that I have bought anal toys and they have mysteriously ‘vanished’ and yet I have not been confronted about them. I do see myself as a fairly good-looking chap but as things get worse at home my need is just growing.
James – Leeds
This is quite common actually so don’t feel alone with this, I do suspect that your girlfriend may actually have an inclination that you have alternative lifestyle, and I think that by taking your toys and not approaching you about them she is waiting for you to approach her to ask for it, and it just may be that she would be more than happy to perhaps indulge some of your fantasies with her – alternatively she may using the toys herself!! I do however think that you need to discuss the issues and see if she isn’t open to visiting the clubs with you.
I have been a lover of porn for as long as I can remember and have a huge collection, I am now in a steady relationship and we plan on moving in together the problem is that she doesn’t know about it! We have a fairly healthy sex life, however if she sees the content I don’t think she would be very pleased, as I love to watch transsexual films, though I don’t dress myself I really can’t explain my fascination with these gorgeous creatures. I don’t want to stop and don’t really think I could anyway, do you think I should tell her? Or do I just keep it to myself and indulge while she is at work?
Barry – Torquay
I am not sure whether I sympathise with you or not really, although I too have a penchant for a bit of lesbian transsexual action, I do however feel that in relationships we all have secrets and provided you can contain the need and harness it in a little, just see how you progress, if however the amount of freedom you have becomes greater and the need for you porn becomes greater then I think you should really discuss it as I always say we often keep our true fantasies to ourselves and are sometimes pleasantly surprised by our partners eventual reaction, allow your relationship a bit more time and gauge how she would react in the eventuality that she would need to be told.
I know it is very typical of women of a certain age to become more and more sexually active, but as of late I feel that if I was a man I would be walking around with a permanent erection, the problem is that I don’t think my partner will be able to keep up, although there is only a small age difference (he being slightly older), we have started experimenting with various scenarios and dressing but it seems the more I am having – the more I want and the need to dominate him and make him do what I want is increasing. I am slightly worried by my attitude and don’t know if he will be enough eventually, I don’t want to cheat but I do have needs and really want to dome just for my pleasure and nobody else – God that sounds harsh but I love it!
Kelly – Glasgow
Although I am a true submissive I do see where you are coming from and it might be an idea for you to ‘switch’ for a while allow your man to be the dominant one, although I do fear by listening to your letter that this might not be the ideal scenario for you. You could try tablets if you feel that he may suffer the inability to perform especially as it does seem that you would be happier to carry on ‘Domming’ him than trying a club or something on those lines, however if your ‘appetite’ keeps increasing you may need to take thing into your own hands – So to Speak.
I am 22 year old boy from India and I came across your articles in TNT a few months ago.
I have observed the fast growing trend of women taking over the charge in every sphere of life.
Most of my aunts verbally abuse my uncles and they being cuckolds could never utter a word to defend themselves.
Most Indian movies now portray such indications that women are no longer the weaker sex.
One gets the feeling that soon matriarchy could prevail whole over the world and men would be forced to submit before women. I think a country’s development status is directly proportional to the amount up to which its womenfolk are liberated.
Take UK and USA, these countries have already given into female domain.
Our world could be much better if ruled by females look what male bastion has done to the world.
Men have lost their credibility as the superior sex. Scientifically females are superior in every aspect.
Did males ever have any credibility as the superior sex to lose? I don’t believe in the superiority of one sex over another. I can’t agree with you Charlie that it has been proven that females are superior to males, and it remains unproven that women would do a better job of ruling the world then men. Although at times it is hard to see how they could do much worse! How could I take issue with this letter when I am a Domina?! Because I value honesty over any theory, even one that will help me steal a wheel on the competition. I respect the truth and will always strive to discover it. I believe that Dominance is a journey of personal discovery and self-mastery – not a matter of gender. As one of your countrymen wisely said ‘An error does not become truth by reason of multiplied propagation, nor does truth become error because nobody sees it.’ Mohandas Gandhi
I am delighted that the notion of male supremacy is being overturned but Female supremacy is an ideology that cannot be supported by a reasoned argument. It’s too farcical to debate so to a certain extent it doesn’t present a problem to me. Let those who think this way get on with it! This is a predictable and dead end belief system, like all systems that pursue the superiority line. If you enjoy an encounter between a powerful women and a vulnerable man, good for you, so do I. I would be the last one to try and spoil your enjoyment! There is nothing wrong with whatever you want to think, or the way you want to live, providing it does no harm to yourself or others. However, you are fooling yourself when you start conferring this kind of reality onto everyone simply because you enjoy the imagery, lifestyle or role. No doubt others may think differently but in Martopia, my ideal world there is tolerance for others’ choices in life which very much means that one size does not fit all.
The Sensual Sadist,
Sight, Sound, Taste and Smell,
Were you the Woman I once Loved so well?
Down on bended knee,
Our eyes met with tortured glee.
I grovelled and slobbered over heel and boot.
So kind of you, To deny my Shoot.
Your six Inch Heel Contorts my cock,
A sight for sore eyes, as I wriggle in Shock.
Pleasure and Pain are not in Vain.
Marquise decides, if ever I will cum again.
The sound of her Footsteps Shatters the Silence.
To smell and taste,
Disgusting fantasies, of your waste.
A sample sweet, in a Business mans Briefcase.
As he walks from Canary wharf,
Then down Bond Street.
He is married to His worth,
A sniff or smell.
Casts a spell,
Instantly reminds him.
Marquise, Oh my Darling Hell.
Fido – Ireland
Hmm. It seems this doggie received a visit from Erato, muse of erotic poetry – and promptly bit her in the leg! Perhaps our canine friends should desist from human talk. Lets keep it simple: one bark for “Yes” and two barks for “Yes, Mistress”.