Regarding your article on Dominance and what it is. How You seem to just grasp the subject and make it seem so transparent and simple. At every paragraph i was echoing in my mind words like yes, spot on, Shes nailed it, exactly what I was thinking but could not possibly express in such a meaningful way.
Your openess in describing the type of Dominant that You are is refreshing and honest and believe me when I say that as erotic as the ownership and Dominance of a male slave is to You, even the thoughts of being in that collar and knowing that the duties that go along with it is every bit as fulfilling for the slave. Knowing that one must be available to the Marquise in any and every way that She sees fit, awaiting Her commands that will be obeyed without question and constantly seeking and looking to see if there is any way that Her comfort could be optimised is enough to make my blood course at high speed.
Your point about society’s ideals and what constitutes a man will have resonance to every male submissive who will all have felt that way somewhere along the line of realising their inner cravings. Such inner turbulence can be frustrating and extreme cases destructive I’m sure but at least through Your writings, and thoughts it will not cause such tribulations to any sub male that has had the honour of being in Your presence or who has read Your insightful thoughts.
Of course, the picture associated with the article was enough to already have my pulses racing
leon – Ireland
Letters like this make it all worthwhile.
I have been waiting for you all my life. But I would need to be wooed and coaxed before I could commit to meeting you. I want a Mistress who is genuine, not into this for money. And when I have come to trust her, I want her to treat me cruelly and without mercy. I want her to ignore my limits. I contacted you before and then didn’t reply when you wrote back. I am begging you to forgive me.
Severin, Croydon – here to serve you.
Really, and I thought he was a character in a book. I had no idea Venus in Furs was set in Croydon! Odd, given you consider me your ideal women, that you have written the exact same letter to a Mistress friend of mine! I have exercised tremendous willpower when I resisted the temptation to “Coax and Woo” you Severin! The struggle with my conscience sapped my innermost strengths until I nearly collapsed with the exhaustion. As for not acknowledging my reply, I don’t take kindly to being messed around. You did the crime; now do the time, which of course will be an eternity. Next!
I am one of those who believes that Women are superior to men. However, my wife has no interest in indulging my fantasies. Would a liaison with you be OK? My goddess; let’s use instant messaging so you can tell me your fantasies while my long well trained tongue gives you pleasure. I have no limits, you may command me in anyway you wish and govern my every waking hour. I prefer to be dressed as a maid and I am allergic to fish.
Anthony – Bristol
Glad that’s settled; maybe I am allergic to nuts! How fortuitous that you happened to inform me that you are allergic to fish! I could have had a fairly major problem there, had I tried the old Piranha/Rectum trick! Poor chap – you would probably have broken out in the most AWFUL rash! Women superior to men – Does this include Rose West? Dominance is about personal discovery and self-mastery, and is not bestowed by virtue of gender. I prefer not to judge a person based on their gender – any more than I judge a person based on race, religion, or sexual orientation. It is the person’s behaviour and actions that matter. You are enquiring whether it would be ok to cheat on your wife. This is not a confessional! But since you seek absolution if I said it’s fine, would that somehow absolve you of the responsibility to be honest with your partner? I am neither ‘your’ goddess nor here to be played for a fool by trying to use me as a free sexual service. (Another offer I somehow found the moral fortitude to refuse!)
Are you strong enough to play with me? I am a chief executive with hundreds of people under me. Everyone perceives me as dominant but I think I might be slightly submissive, with your guidance I can explore this inclination. Wouldn’t you feel honoured if you were able to bring one so strong down so low?
Roland – Norfolk
It looks like you already have someone to worship Roland! Why do people think that putting CE as their title carries any weight? I may as well call myself chief executive of Martopia Enterprises, big deal! No guts, no glory! Make your mind up before experimenting with someone who is most decidedly dominant. And I am a Dom, not a drill sergeant so if you are looking for someone to force you to obey, you are looking in the wrong direction!
Thank you for your interesting articles. It is nice to know that real dominant women exist. I have found that the clubs and internet don’t really offer what I am looking for. The reason I am humbly and speculatively writing to you is simple. I wondered if you know a riding Mistress in the London/M25 area please. A genuine equestrienne who would like me to be useful to her as a bootboy, stable lad, footman, human furniture? As well as this, I seek the erotically controlling thrill of an enforced diet and exercise programme. Please help me if you can. I ask nothing more in return, but equestriana is my drive. Perhaps you could
advise me on how to ingratiate myself without compromise in a riding stable?
Thanks. Much respect. Bootboy.
I am glad you find the articles interesting Bootboy, but I am unable to help you with your enquiry.
I travelled a five hour round trip to a meet a domme I contacted on the internet who described herself as slim. She turned out to be morbidly obese and unable to fit into the sports car I had hoped to accompany her to a local pub in. This is not the first time this kind of thing has happened to me. What is going on?
B – Windsor
In more certain times, truth was beauty, and beauty truth. Today, honesty is an altogether murkier concept, where its acceptable to tell whoppers to friends, lovers, prospective employers and especially it seems on personal ads online.
The value attached to honesty these days is far outweighed by that associated with being successful, charming and famous. In our present times there seems an almost unprecedented tolerance of falsehood.
If its any compensation to you, I have also experienced some disappointing encounters and once the lying cyber cad has struck, he tends to disappear back into cyber space before you can say control alt delete!
The stigma has all but gone from logging on and kinky personal sites are enjoying a high trade. It seems that many men can’t resist the temptation of anonymous multiple conquests and some people of both sexes seem to think it is acceptable to be economical with the truth. It isn’t. Don’t let anyone accuse you of being shallow to state a preference in body size either; you are entitled to expect someone will be as they describe themselves.
You need to keep your wits about you and set up some criteria to make this situation less likely to happen. I am wary of the man who provides only a mobile number, what has he got to hide at home or at work? And I don’t tolerate behaviour from a man that would raise alarm bells if I met him in a fetish club. And finally a man who asks me if I am wearing stockings in his second email to me is likely to have motives other than a long term monogamous relationship…
You must use your own screening techniques to minimise having your time wasted. Better luck next time. Whatever your experiences with lies and half truths it is important that you don’t let it undermine your own integrity. People lie for all sorts of reasons but mainly because they are scared; don’t focus on the lie, think about the reasons for it and try and sympathise. An acceptance of other people’s foibles and insecurities is a big step towards understanding your own.
I am a novice sub by nature. 61 yrs old male, living in the US. Would like to start a relationship with a Dom via email. I don’t know all the protocol, so forgive me if I, falter. After reading your articles, you sound as a real person. Looking at joining a Pro DOM as a 24/7 lifestyle. But she is very cautious, as I am her first 24/7 slave. She has been a lifestyler for 17 years, and has warned me about going slow, making sure this is what I want, and to be well prepared for the transfer of complete power control. She is a real person too, meaning she has feelings. I need to converse with another like you, to become fully enlightened about what I am undertaking. Will you share your personal thoughts with me on this subject? I am sincere as can be.
Thank you for your interest in my writing, although you say very little about it besides realising I am totally genuine. Etiquette is overrated; I am more interested in what comes from the heart and natural consideration toward others. I cannot see how you can know that you want 24/7 before you have even tried a power exchange on a more part time basis. If you are thinking of serving her, it is her you need to be corresponding with.
I wish you well.